do you remember your first day of school
or your first job or when you moved into
a new neighborhood you didn't know
anybody do you remember those little
feelings those little murmurings of
being a little insecure a little like
huh I wonder what's gonna happen next
yeah well it happens to everybody so
here's the cool thing we're going to be
talking about casual conversation today
why because whatever you're doing
casually same muscles as when the stakes
are really high an important
conversation and important speaking
event so let's take the example of
welcoming new people now just like the
golden rule reminds us you do unto
others as you would have them do unto
you if you've ever experienced being
awkward like that first day of school
don't know if anyone's gonna like you
it's really weird you don't know what to
do well I want you to flip the script I
want you to look for opportunities to
welcome people I want you to look for
ways that you can be proactive in your
communication to make somebody feel
better so let's say with your work and
now maybe you aren't in charge of the
Welcome Wagon at work but you've
realized that there's a new employee
that somewhere you know on your floor I
want you to go out of your way even
though it's not part of your job
description or you know maybe haven't
thought of it before but I want you to
take proactive steps to introduce
yourself by greeting somebody in a warm
manner by just sharing your name by
asking them some questions maybe
thinking about how you wish information
that you wish that you had and then
giving it freely see when you do that
when you start to step in the way you
wish that people would have treated you
you you start to change things you start
to make people feel better and you start
to step into a new positive confident
version of yourself welcoming new people
is a terrific opportunity to practice
this whether it's a new person at your
job or you're just meeting somebody new
at a networking event or you're talking
to somebody new in line at a coffee shop
same stuff do unto others as you would
have them do unto you
and guess what you'll also start to
notice the
people are responding to you a little
bit differently fully but it works so
try that when we get comfortable
speaking in casual conversations again
we are prepared for the big time so
practice now make somebody's day it'll
feel great for both you and for them