How to not get homesick at a sleepover
Tackling a Fear: Sleepovers
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hi everyone so today I don't really have
a specific plan for this video I wanted
to talk about sort of facing your fears
and confronting anxiety and for me at
the moment that is specifically centered
around sleepovers as a child and never
had any problem with it never got
homesickness absolutely fine and then
during my mid-teens when my anxiety got
really severe and I effectively sort of
had a nervous breakdown a lot of the
things I used to find very easy became
very difficult and sleepovers were one
of them
and in February I was in a situation
where I could have had a slept round
which I sort of it was basically it was
the first panic attack I'd had in a long
time suddenly it was like the thought
hit me and I just had a huge panic
attack and I ended up going home and
since then I've sort of been busy there
hasn't been an opportunity and the same
person has invited me back for another
party and said you know oh you know you
can sleep around if you want and I'm not
gonna lie I'm kind of terrified of it
for me I have a lot of fear over what I
see is situations that leave me trapped
and although arguably rationally
speaking you're not trapped when you're
a sleepover or you're sleeping around
someone else's house I can't help but
feel like I am trapped and if something
were to happen like for me the main
thing is I'm always afraid of being sick
like I could do a whole nother video on
where this came from and all that stuff
but basically I'm afraid that I'll go
somewhere start to feel sick and not be
able to go home and it's not
specifically like the feeling of needing
to go home it's just the feeling of
removing myself from the situation and
other people and I do feel anxious about
the thought of having to do this
sleepover next week which is going to be
on Wednesday or a Thursday not at that
particularly matters because I'm super
slow editing and getting these sorted
and I have committed to going to a party
and sleeping around and it's gonna be
the first time I've done that for years
and it's kind of embarrassing to admit
that because 10 year old me you would
have absolutely no problem with it
and now an adult I'm terrified of it and
it's just weird that it's a child it
didn't bother me and now it does but I
can't help that and the only way forward
is to try and do something about it the
plan is to meditate over the next few
days to do some self CBT techniques I've
been taught in hopes that I can try and
like reverse the negative feelings
particularly because the last panic
attack I had was over to sleep over at
this same person's house I figured that
if I can try and desensitize myself from
that memory then perhaps things will get
a bit easier I'm also gonna be doing
some visualization techniques obviously
a lot of rationalization I plan on doing
mental rationalization so picturing it
picturing worst-case scenario
rationalizing also writing things down
because I do like to physically write
down what is troubling me
I may let one of my closest friends know
that I'm slightly nervous about the
prospect of sleeping over so it is nice
to let a trusted person know what you're
going through and what the situation is
and and another thing I've done is I
haven't specifically committed to
actually sleeping over I've committed to
like going I was like oh yeah sounds
like fun but I didn't as you say and I
will be sleeping over so for as long as
I can I think I won't commit because
once I do I feel like that will just
heighten my anxiety so that is the plan
for now I've definitely obviously gonna
check in afterwards and say how
when and if I did or didn't manage to do
it but I'm a check in a bit closer to
the time and sort of do like a little
update on how everything's going
I don't know yeah I don't know when I'll
have the time to do that but we'll see
today is the day and to be honest I am
crapping myself I'm not really sure why
I feel this pang shirts yesterday I was
feeling pretty positive about it and
today I guess it just came around and
I'm not doing so good and I figured that
I would just be open about this because
up until now it was more a case of I'm
definitely gonna do it I just may not
enjoy it that much and now it's gotten
to the point where I'm not even sure if
I can do it but I'm gonna push through
the plan is to meditate on my feelings
rationalize go for a run to try and get
rid of any like nervous energy then
maybe even go for a walk afterwards to
clear my mind
eat thing and simple and I guess just
try to hold it together and just keep
trying to think positive so it is about
five minutes before we are due to leave
I did everything that I said I was gonna
do and still feeling pretty anxious but
the various things that I've done
throughout the days definitely help to
minimize the anxiety and I managed to
eat a fairly big lunch as well which is
always good so I'm feeling a lot more
positive about it for a while it was a
bit of him mrs. to whether or not I
really even get to this stage where I'm
like dressed and ready to go so
I have is really really positive and I'm
just gonna hope the things go well I
have a couple of backup friends but
other than that I think I'm gonna be
able to do this and yeah I guess I will
catch up in however long them let you
guys know how it went
so last night before going to bed I
suddenly realized that I had never
finished this like video off so it is a
few days later and it is thankfully the
morning so I'm able to talk normally you
don't have to worry about waking people
up and yeah I did the sleepover it was
fine I felt super anxious on the way
there and for the first maybe one and a
half to two hours I was really anxious
and then eventually the anxiety just
every way and I felt absolutely normal
went to bed there woke up the next
morning no anxiety everything was fine
and that's even on like limited sleep
and eating crap which usually or like
make me feel at least a little bit more
anxious and yeah everything was fine
although this video was specifically
about tackling like sleepovers and like
homesickness base anxiety I think the
things that I did to help myself do what
I did would be useful for tackling any
kind of fear or anxiety so even if you
don't have the same fear as I do you can
still use the different techniques that
I did and yeah it would encourage
everyone to try and face their own fears
I'm hoping at least some people took
comfort from this video knowing that
they're not the only ones that get
anxious about things even as a fully
functioning human being
I still get anxious I still have panic
attacks
and I wish everyone the best of luck in
tackling their own fears so I'm gonna
put some links in the description about
how to tackle like sleepovers and
homesickness kind of fears and anxiety
and if you have like other different
fears and anxieties I'd suggest going
through my other videos in the link in
the description there's always like a
little collection of websites that I
recommend to you guys so that you can
look through them just in case I don't
know my videos for you and you can't be
bothered to watch them all there's
always going to be links in the
description I don't take offence and
yeah it was a good experience I managed
it I know that you can manage it too if
you put your mind to it I will see you
guys in my next video
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