so you're depressed unmotivated and
simply can't get yourself to do
the things you want and need to do by
the end of this video you'll know why
motivation
is so elusive for you and what to do
about it for the best advice on getting
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every tuesday this topic came up when
one of my clients asked the following
inside my coaching membership discord
server why do you guys think
we stop ourselves from doing creative
projects
i have started and restarted so many
times
or i want to do my creative projects
when i'm not home then when i get home i
look at it
and i don't do it as for my answer to
this client's question
it might surprise you so let's get
started
first of all i want to get something off
my chest so often when people say they
want to do something but they don't
actually do it
they're told some version of this quote
by jim rohn
if you really want to do something
you'll find a way
if you don't you'll find an excuse this
couldn't be further from the truth
because the more we want something the
more meaningful it is to us
the more resistance we're likely to
experience and the more we're likely to
procrastinate
okay now that we've got that out of the
way there are so many things that can
contribute to the kind of resistance and
procrastination my client described in
their question
burnout overwhelm exhaustion fear
physical illness mental illness trauma
neurodivergence and cultural
expectations
if expectations don't align with our
integrity for example we subconsciously
avoid meeting those expectations because
deep down we know they're not right for
us and or
avoid doing what is right for us because
we feel obligated to meet those external
cultural expectations in spite of how
wrong they feel
sometimes it's as simple as believing
that you need to want
to do something that you need to
actively feel that desire in order to
get started
but in truth motivation comes after
taking action now it's likely that
you've heard
some version of that before that
motivation comes after taking action
that it comes from taking action trouble
is
without more information that advice
tends to lead you right back where you
started
wanting to do something but unable to
start
if you can relate let me know down in
the comments so let's expand upon the
idea that motivation comes
after taking action for those of us who
experience what can feel like
insurmountable amounts of resistance and
procrastination
motivation often comes not only after
taking action
but also after making taking action a
habit
aka you take action consistently
the motivation in this context is the
motivation to keep
going why is that distinction important
let's define motivation in a new way why
would someone want to do be or have
anything simply put because they know
what doing
being or having that something would be
like
and they want that experience to become
real in order to want to do something
you need to have the capacity to imagine
doing it
and imagine feeling good because of it
for those of us trying to do something
new
or different and for those of us with
mental illness trauma or neuro
diversions
it's very difficult to imagine this
regardless of whether that's just how
your brain works
or you're trying to do something you've
never done before the imagining part is
really hard if you can't imagine and
embody what it will be like to
experience having done or achieved
something
the doing itself becomes a very very
bitter pill to swallow
your inner critic steps in and convinces
you that it's not worth trying in the
first place
whereas if you can imagine what it will
be like that becomes the motivation
the spoonful of sugar to help the
medicine go down that's why the action
needs to come
first because then you get to experience
first hand
what it feels like to have done
something and if it feels good
that's a little sugar to put in the
pantry for next time
string together enough of those via
habit
via consistency and you will always have
plenty of motivation to help the
medicine go down
long story short this whole motivation
debacle is why i
created button cheer time it's a tool
set you can use regardless of the cause
of your resistance
so you can start taking action now
instead of spending time and effort
trying to figure out
why you're not taking action in the
first place you can access my button
chair time masterclass for free by going
to the link in the description box below
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if you want to hear where button chair
time came from
spoiler i was depressed and doing
nothing for almost a decade until i
figured out button chair
time and freed myself from my very own
personal groundhog day
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