how to get your ex back after cheating
hello guys and welcome to love advice tv
my name is alex carmond i am your
relationship
expert and in this video i want to
tackle this very
important subject unfortunately you
cheated on your
boyfriend girlfriend and you want to ask
how can i
get this back how can i recovery after
this breakup
it's not an easy situation but it's
possible so that's the first key message
i want you to tell you if you are
willing to do the work
if you are willing to put the actions in
place
and change yes you can get your ex back
even after cheating i want to share with
you my tips and my experience because
i've coached more than 70
000 people from all over the world i
know
i have a strong french accent but when
it comes to breakup
i can tell you exactly what to do before
to share with you my advice and my
vision
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let me explain to you there is two main
situation
if you're cheating on your ex boyfriend
or girlfriend
there is only two reason that this will
happen
reason number one you are not happy in
the relationship
you're not happy in your relationship
you don't know how to communicate better
so you find the only one solution was to
get an extra relationship basically and
your ex caught you
and in this time it's the breakup so
in this case in this specific case we
will have to study exactly
how can you change the relationship what
should you have done before and better
if we talk about this there is a big way
to be able to
get your ex back the other situation
is when you are always cheating on your
partner
and most of the time it's not the people
we coach so if you
like to be infidel if you like to cheat
you will not be watching this video
so for me the real situation today
is you're cheating on your ex-girlfriend
or boyfriend
because you were not happy in the
relationship
you tried to do things it didn't work so
you started to look
if the grass was was greener outside
which is not the case
so what do you do now step number one
and this will be the craziest advice you
would hear
but i have found that your ex need
answer
it's not about putting the fault on your
ex or the relationship but it's very
important to tell your ex
i was trying to talk to you i was trying
to do things i didn't do good
but this is the reason why i cheated i
cheated because
you are you were emotionally dependent i
cheated because the wooching was in a
relationship
i cheated because it's up to you to tell
your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend why
did you cheat because when you talk
about the
root of the problem not just the
consequences because
cheating on someone could be the
consequences
okay we need to look at the root of the
problem
once we have identified the root of the
problem
your ex will start to understand that
it's not the cheating the problem
it was maybe the lack of communication
the lack of
i said happiness in the relationship
lack of
intimacy basically there's a lot of
possibility
options that can explain a breakup and
if we tackle the root of the problem
your ex will still be mad at you your ex
will still
fire you but in the meantime
you will be able to have a communication
you will be able to help your ex to
release the negative emotions
which is very important for us so if
you're cheating on your ex
tip number one you need to explain why
tips number two don't talk about
love so basically if you talk about love
you will just put your finger in the
wound this is not what we want
we don't want to make the pen again
we want to avoid communication on this
and we will use
an amazing tool that it's called the
projection
what does it mean exactly basically you
will talk about your
goals future dreams you will just show
that you're putting the work today
actions to not cheat again and of course
that you have
projects if you have projects and goals
your ex will start to believe in you
again
which is very important for us so tip
number two
instead of talking about love and the
past you will have also to talk about
the future and what you're doing today
for example
something that has worked for one of my
coaches it's a man
that unfortunately cheated on his wife
and he told me alex i was so stupid i
didn't know how to communicate
the fact that i didn't feel the spark
again in the relationship
and i told him okay you need to be a
little bit
focused on your emotions what can you do
what would you love to do
and he said you know alex my wife is a
big fan of yoga
i would love to try but on my own don't
want to go with her
i said okay let's do it he did it not
just once
but every tuesday and after a couple of
weeks he posted
pictures on social media and they
started a communication and he said you
know what
because of this breakup i am able to
reconnect to my emotions
i was so closed before that's where they
started to
talk more seeing each other and then
finally getting back together
yes it took him nine weeks
it's a long time but nine weeks if you
want to save your marriage
if you want to save your family it's not
that long so you need to understand that
today
with the power of the projections
meaning him
talking about his new actions talking
about what he wants to do
today to make it life his life different
your ex will realize that it's not just
ego
it's really the fact that you learn from
this experience
and this will lead me to my tips number
three if you
want to show to your ex that you have
learned
you need to do new things you need to do
new actions you get to
you need to get new habits you need to
make sure that
you will prove that today you're
becoming a better
human being that's how you can get back
with someone after cheating
just because you show that today and
tomorrow will be different from
yesterday
it makes a lot of sense when i say it
but i know it's difficult for you
because you have
a lot of emotions you feel guilty
and if you feel guilty what would you do
you will talk about the past
you will talk about the fact that you
love your ex and you will say that
you're so stupid
everything that will not help you
get your ex back so we need to change
this vision
i am not saying that it's good that you
cheated on your ex of course it's wrong
it's something that you should not do
but unfortunately it's something that
can happen specifically in our society
today
and we have to learn why and if you can
respond to this why to your ex
then the ego and the negative emotions
will go away
and then we will consider are we mean to
be together
yes or no i know it's difficult for you
and this is the reason why i attached in
the description a link
from adrienne's video it's not my video
because coach adrian
is the perfect expert in your specific
case
he has made with coach natalie an
amazing
videos that you need to watch you watch
this video
and you will understand exactly how to
overcome infidelity
okay and how to make sure that you will
be able
to get your ex back and rebuild a real
relationship
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will understand exactly
how to move on from infidelity how to
overcome the breakup
and how to reattract that
your significant other like coach adrian
is always saying
and it's for me very important to tell
you this because
i have seen so many people being able to
save the marriage relationship family
after cheating and the reason why they
did it is because
they understood together that
this was not the problem the problem was
larger
the problem was different so this is
where you need to put your focus on
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