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healing is so not about getting over
stuff and it's so much about getting
through stuff and I think we have this
mental block in thinking I need to get
over this rather than get through it and
when you try and get over something you
don't necessarily process the fame you
don't necessarily give yourself the time
and the energy and the care to express
how you fell and allow yourself a outlet
to really let go yeah and that's coming
from the point of view
realizing that regret is painful change
is painful but change is less painful
than regret and so when you realize that
actually the only two options I have now
I regret will change and they both hurt
but change hurts less and when we
recognize that then we choose to change
we choose to move forward we choose to
let go of that regret because we realize
that regrets not serving us when you
have a pair of dirty trainers or
trainers that have ripped up torn apart
destroyed
you know they no longer serve you you
don't hold on to them you get rid of
them right and yeah there may be a
person because that you have a bit of a
nostalgia with so they're still sitting
around but you know you never wear them
because they are no use to you
but with our emotions we hold on to them
even when they're not useful to us
anymore and just like an item of
clothing just like and just like a pair
of sneakers just like anything in our
life that once it's completely used or
finished or run out of steam that's a
moment where it needs
let go that's what regrets are like and
so when we can just let them go and
realize that changes our only choice
that is a mental shift it is a paradigm
choice if you like really pushing away
and I'm not saying it's easy but I'm
saying that it has to be consciously
reminded it's like repetition
she's repetition it's reminding
ourselves that wave regret does not
serve me like I can't wear that t-shirt
over granny because it doesn't fit it
doesn't work it's not selling it
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