insecurities we all have them whether or
not it's something physical that you're
insecure about like your height your
weight maybe the fact that you got
pointy little ears the sky or maybe your
insecurities stem from a lack of
financial resources you might not have
the nicest car maybe your clothes aren't
exactly as nice as your buddies but
regardless of what you're insecure about
nothing can kill a potentially great
situation like relationship insecurity
so today I thought I'd go over ten tips
for overcoming relationship insecurity
tip number one don't judge your current
relationship based on your previous
relationships right because here's the
deal just because your past girlfriend
boyfriend whatever you're into cheated
on you right doesn't mean that the
current one is cheating on you and
nothing is going to potentially kill a
relationship like making the current
girlfriend boyfriend whenever you're in
to pay for the deeds of your past
boyfriend girlfriend or whatever you're
in sir the beautiful thing about new
relationships is that you get to start
fresh it's like a relationship do-over
so don't have this one up tip number two
don't confuse imagination with reality
right when we start getting insecure we
start imagining some crazy things and
you start reading into everything it's
like oh my god she didn't text back in
five minutes this means that she's
definitely cheating on me I know because
I have been their brother I have been
like the super freaky paranoid guy that
starts reading into everything like oh
my god right well here's the deal what I
learned is that the best way to
basically squash this is to encourage
open and honest communication from the
start but you have to start doing it
when things are good right not when
things are bad don't be like oh we need
to talk and we need to start being
honest because you're going to get weird
and it's going to turn the other person
off superfast encourage communication
from the beginning but don't read in or
you're mine play crazy tricks on you I
know it's hard but you've got to trust
that if the person has something to say
they're going to say it to you leading
us that's it number three which is stop
trying to mind-read you can't mind read
it if you can call Oprah bro because you
are gonna be famous ha ha
you can't mind read nobody can so don't
try ask but tip number four is once you
ask don't keep asking ha ha yeah right
are you sure everything's okay yeah
everything's cool
five minutes later you're sure
something's not bothering you you can
talk to me you know come on open up are
you sure then tomorrow you're like
you're acting weird once you're there
the relationships over dude because
there is nothing that's going to destroy
a potentially good thing like you're
persistent pestering if you ask they say
it's cool you've got to trust them that
it is actually good what am i doing
exactly breathing deep breaths tip
number five your relationship also needs
room to breathe think of a relationship
as a tree a sapling when it's new it's
fresh you plant that sapling what do you
do you nurture it you give it water you
give it some dirt you give it sunshine
you give it room to breathe if you are
constantly standing over top of that
tree waiting and be like come on grow
little tree come on exactly you're gonna
smother it and the same thing happens to
relationships gentlemen it is okay to
have me type not only is it good it is a
critical component to a healthy
relationship all right because if you
were oh like holding on for dear life
and I'm never going to let you out of my
sight that is a breeding ground for big
trouble my friends you need to have your
own things going on you need to have
outside interest outside friends all
right the best and strongest
relationships are with people that have
their own lives right they're
individuals that come together not one
morphed individual that's weird
awkward and a doomed situation tip
number six is understand that
relationships are not always roses
Puppis because here's the deal a lot of
times when we get into a relationship
right a new relationship how great does
that feel like seriously you are walking
on air my friends like yeah and you're
just alright it feels amazing the
endorphins everything is going crazy
well guess what that never lasts it
can't last we cannot and we're not
designed to maintain that level of
emotional endorphin releasing intensity
all right your relationship is going to
go it's going to EV it's going to flow
it's going to have highs it's going to
have lows it's going to have alright
alright the idea is that you don't just
bail it the first time of trouble
alright focus on the good focus on the
positive all right if it's a lasting
relationship and something that is
supposed to be then it's okay all right
don't just freak out just keep nurturing
keep working and eventually it'll work
itself out if it's supposed to tip
number seven I'm going to slow it down
right because a lot of you need to hear
me when I say this do not snoop alright
do not steal their phone or look through
their phone look through text messages
don't break into Facebook don't look in
emails guys I am here to tell you there
is once you reach that point right the
insecurities point at which you feel the
need to snoop you'll never stop because
you'll never trust them and I'm telling
you if you look hard enough you're going
to find something that you're going to
miss read and turn into a situation and
here's the thing right if you look right
and you find something that you want to
question them about what are you going
to do you're going to act weird right
you're not going to come out and or if
you do come out and confront them
they're going to be like yo what you
look through my stuff and you're gonna
be like oh yeah but I had to and then
you're going to try and make up some
excuse of why you needed to look in
their phone and go through 27 text
messages guys I am here to tell you do
not start that situation because once
you start it is impossible to stop
bringing us to tip number eight go with
your gut instincts we all have them
listen to them but if your instinct is
telling you something that's a little
bit off then ask but don't snoop I'm
telling you there is absolutely nothing
positive that comes from it tip number
nine is an important one and that
is there is nobody else who is
responsible for your happiness except
you and vice versa you're not
responsible for anybody else's happiness
except yours and tip number 10
remember that relationships are supposed
to feel good and you're supposed to feel
better being with this person if it
comes to a point where you don't feel
good when you're with somebody chances
are it's not the right person and it's
time to break up is it going to suck
absolutely is it going to be devastating
in her for a while you bet you but if
you missed the video that I did talking
about how to break up like a man there's
a link down in the description
insecurities we all have them but
managing them and knowing how to handle
them when it comes to a relationship is
a key component to you having a happy
healthy and successful relationship
gentlemen you deserve the best so go out
and get it