How to get rid of a bad roommate
How To Handle Awful Roommates | Bad Roommate Tips
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hey guys welcome back to my channel I'm
Deanna also known as Dee and last video
we talked about my roommate Horror Story
and yeah I'm about
I haven't read you all comments yet
because I am filming it's the same day
as you can see I just changed my
lipstick because I wanted to see if the
brown will work with the purple let me
know if it did but anyway um as I said
before I just wanted to talk about some
of the things that I learned and some of
my tips on what you should do if you're
dealing with a roommate Horror Story
such as mine go ahead and give this
video a thumbs up if you are or if you
have because I know it's rough girl or
guy you know I feel like girls are a bit
more caddied but also some of other
things that I heard other guys guys are
just nasty then again my roommates for
it too
whoops anyway if you didn't watch the
last one this is what I mean
all right so I guess we will go with
what to do first and so my first tip I
talked about a little bit in the last
video but actually didn't focus too much
on I kind of forgot and I was looking I
was kind of irritated it's fine but the
first one is to actually try and talk
and/or work it out first because like a
lot of issues the situation is just in
life in general can be managed by you if
you just work it out with the person
that you're having an issue with like I
know I had people in my Hall last year
who weren't like vibin that well as
roommates but like they talked it out
some of them worked it out some of them
didn't and they ended up moving out and
you know it just happens but it's better
just to go ahead and talk it out like I
said I went ahead and called a roommate
meeting a couple of roommate meetings
actually they didn't go as planned since
they decided that the tour's list was
too much but that doesn't mean it can't
work for you and I would definitely just
suggest like talk you know just like how
you would with like your friends or your
boyfriend and girlfriend if you're
having an issue like it helps just in
general just so that you and the person
who you are having a relationship with
and use this term relationship loosely
because it can mean a whole bunch of
different things not just romantic and
it can just help you all understand each
other better
now my next thing again this is gonna be
a lot of talking like Oh emotions Oh
what do you mean I know I don't like
emotions either it's a problem we're
working through this but talking talking
is actually very helpful and another
person that you should be talking to is
your RA your R is a very helpful aspect
of this in the section something that I
did not do I talked to another RA
because you happen to be one of my
that a couple of friends who are artists
and he'd happened to be a senior but I
did not talk to my own RA until
afterwards and she was actually kind of
horrified what was going on especially
since she lived the door and next to us
it was a lot but um but yeah just
talking to her and they can help defuse
the situation they can bring up your
roommate agreement if your school
happens to do one of those and they're
just they're literally trained to
mediate issues like that and so go to
them before you go to like area
coordinator or anything else like that
just because there's two put there like
your first line of defense basically
another person or people that you talk
to just like your friends family now I
know it can be fun to roast people and
I'm not I'm not free of this like I told
you my best friend did not like them
either and neither did what my friend
who lived downstairs actually you all
might see her later on that she's gonna
be in New Zealand when I'm in Australia
so I'm excited anyway just talking to
them at the issue kind of helped and
then a person who was actually kind of
separated and talked to her about the
issues sooner kind of did a little bit
later was my mother's look why didn't
you tell me they've helped because she's
gone through like some roommate Horror
Story - she's only had one roommate
other than me and my brother and her
husband's husband she's only been
married once but yeah she had a roommate
Horror Story too hers was interesting
because you know the girl stole clothes
out of her closet and would wear them as
if they were hers and a whole bunch of
other issues
my mother's teenage and college years
were interesting but just talking to her
made me feel a lot better as well also
she was very helpful with like moving on
with my stuff up here and just with
getting me through that situation also
she is one of the many reasons why I did
not go to jail for hurting the one who
does not know what bleaches or my actual
roommates anyway I'm see I'm saying
anyway again stop it I get it from her -
I hear from Mama I just heard her say
like five
so you probably used to hear that laughs
that's her yeah just talking to them is
there good like they have life
experience as well like your friends
your family life experiences well and
they can just help you through the issue
now another thing that you should do is
ditch evidence photographic videographic
get evidence so that you can prove this
is a thing this isn't only with
roommates issues like if you move into
an apartment take pictures of everything
when you move in and before you like
like after you move everything out when
you're done so they can't try and pin
something on you or even if you see
something happening like hello you've
seen all of the like incriminating
videos on Facebook and Instagram people
doing stupid stuff same thing this is
why I have these yeah I'm sure you all
are sick of saying that me trust me I
was too with the law like literally fall
break I told you about fall break and it
was a whole mess last video but
literally my best friend and one of my
other friends was living in the building
had to come like help me clean up cuz I
was doing the cold dinner party I really
almost had a meltdown or whatever just
because they were in the room it was
nasty it was so nasty they helped me
clean up that's fine
just having the support system in
getting evidence of things like that so
that when it does come time for you to
state why you should be able to move if
your college is very difficult on that
subject for some reason some of them are
but just leave this you can prove that
this is not a livable situation because
I actually didn't do it to all of what
my issues were as long as that last
video was but there's still issue yeah
so we're glad that we have that even
though I don't have to use it thankfully
but still yeah
now another one another
last one is actually going to your
housing office then getting moved
don't stay in that situation I should
not have stayed there as long as I did
there's many issues we're going on and
now granted I am NOT trying to say that
was a perfect roommate by no means do I
think that I was a perfect roommate IBM
I said I am kind of junky I come in late
although they never said that me coming
in late was it issue because I do try to
be respectful because I know that I come
in late if I'm quiet when I do that and
I cleaned up after myself although not
always really I was living in the living
room which was a bit of an issue
although yeah go watch the last video
but um yeah and like even sometimes I
know that my friends who I would bring
over we're loud sometimes most of time
like it wasn't like I would always ask
them beforehand or let them know
beforehand the one time that I did my
fur at me and my friend and my boyfriend
we're going to see a musical that was
right around the corner my friend needed
to charge her phone I need to get my
umbrella
he walked in sat around for a little
they tried to make conversation
with the one who doesn't know what
bleaches she did not now I know that my
friend is a bit loud my boyfriend
however is not and so Trina was being a
little loud but like I calmed her down
she understood or whatever and I went
back and again first thing talking it
out I was like hey yeah sorry you seemed
a little annoyed yo last night was
everything good and it's we're just
we're gonna act like I didn't say her
name but I know she's a little loud but
yeah is everything good her answer was
yeah you know it would have been it
would have been fine if I wasn't trying
to watch television and like literally
any other suite that she walked into if
someone's watching television and things
I'll either turn it up going their room
cuz the living room is a public space
not only was it a public space was where
my bed was
so there's that as always then go and
just make sure that you don't have to
stay in that situation longer than you
meet - now things that I learned from
this whole ordeal the one that actually
got me the most I know this is gonna
sound stupid but long demon got me the
most was that I found out that I
actually cannot get along with everybody
like my whole thing before this was that
yeah
like the reason why I wasn't worried
about like having a random roommate or
anything was that literally before this
I could get along with anybody like
doesn't matter who they were I could
before I could least be cordial with
them like I can make small talk it's
fine that no I could not and I mean it
wasn't like it was like groundbreaking
or like mine shattering or anything like
that it was just like interesting so
there are people that just can't deal
with but it was interesting to learn so
if any of you all out there think that
do you might you might meet your match
just in general I don't plan on having
another roommate at least not in college
at least and next one that I can't
choose myself well unfortunately a cliff
with people Australia hopefully they are
not this bad cuz I don't feel like doing
this in a foreign country that'd just be
alive now another thing that I learned
from this whole ordeal was the
importance of personal space like I
talked about this in my first video and
this whole ordeal is why I set that like
just having your own space just where
you can be free and like eat just do
nothing just not have anyone there like
as I said earlier like I'm amber or
maybe it was in the last video I don't
know but I'm amber like I'm very loud
extrovert it moves the time I do have
times where I do not want to be around
people and this year showed me that more
than anything else cuz I normally don't
mind I like just people being in the
room or whatever I did not want to be
around in
there's like for the first couple of
weeks that I had my room like literally
I don't even know if I went out honestly
it was yeah it was a mess but it's over
so that was just just learning that like
learning that I'm more introverted than
I originally thought
cuz they were draining and not only that
like I was able to sleep better that's
all this is one things I didn't mention
I mean it wasn't her fault but my
roommate would like snack in her sleep
if you know me my least favorite sound
in the world since I was little a little
bitty I cannot stand the sound of people
chewing smacking or slurping or anything
that has to do with like your mouth and
food I can't do it and so Lily I should
we do that every night they already have
a hard time going to sleep anyway I just
couldn't so I was actually able to sleep
and get enough sleep and because of that
my focus was a lot better I had someone
that I could retreat to F after the day
was done I was able to be a bit Messier
and although I was talking to how messy
they were like thanks I'm like junkie a
little bit like I'm a little junkie I'm
not nasty though like literally them
just leave food out no yeah so I can
just having personal space somewhere to
just be yourself let loose walk around
naked if you want to whatever I'm not
judging I've done it too it's fine
so the last one that I wrote down was
that being calm pays off like as many
times as I want it to go off I know the
whole situation could have been a made
lot worse had I done so because if one
of them had got mad for me getting that
them for doing stupid stuff and they had
touched me or my furniture I definitely
was
had some sort of repercussion so yeah
that was what I was saying to pay that
would pay off can you hear this Thunder
it's so loud good lord
oh the sunsets pretty though that's
there there's a person planning this my
driveway I don't appreciate it
I just realize there's one thing that I
did forget to mention the very beginning
and that is you know how salient talked
to all these different people I have
personal likes based and backup and
support and all stuff but one thing that
I didn't forget to do talk about is
having someone to help you move out
because that'll help you get out of
there as quickly as you need to and
quick as possible and also you want to
carry all of your stuff out on your own
anything like meat you have a lot of
stuff and the final thing that I would
say that I learned and also that you
should do is that you don't you don't
have to tell your roommates when we're
moving out I know I said before that my
mom said this but after dealing with the
one who doesn't know what bleach is and
the whole thing that happened before
ICCA dissin realized that they probably
wouldn't have been that bad she didn't
know that I was moving out and so in the
future if I do have an issue like that I
will most likely not tell them if I'm
moving out they'll find out when I'm
moving out and I would recommend you do
the same especially if it has gotten to
the point where you and your roommates
are like literally standing off like the
thing is that my roommates would just
get mad and like not talk to me cuz they
didn't like talking anyway I was like I
really don't care I didn't want to talk
to you anyway but if your if your
roommates aren't like that and it's a
bit more vocal or violent definitely
don't tell them cuz that'll that'll just
be a lot I know this is a lot I hope
this was helpful in some sort of way let
me know in the comments below if you
actually learn anything from this again
go ahead and post your roommate Horror
Story cuz good lord you know
maybe we'll highlight some of those
we'll just go ahead and give you all
this shout out if you have one
especially one of the beats this one I
mean I'm sure there are some that beat
this one but this was just a long time
coming thanks for watching guys I hope
this was helpful and I didn't scare you
up from the idea of having roommates in
general anyway I'll see you next time
bye
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