so if you've never done therapy before
you're probably anxious about your first
session in fact I've almost never had a
client come in and not express feeling
some amount of anxiety but also within
the first few minutes or at least by the
end of the session feeling a lot better
like I just feel more comfortable now
that we got started and really glad that
they came so I encourage you not to let
anxiety stop you although it also makes
sense that we'd be a little anxious you
know maybe it's vulnerable in a way
we're not used to to share thoughts with
a stranger or we think that therapy
means that we have some issue or problem
but actually therapy doesn't mean that
you're crazy or broken or have some big
issue anybody can benefit from therapy
now the therapists job is to also help
you figure out what your goal will be
the therapist is very likely to ask you
in the first session what brought you
into counseling to talk with them what
would you like to focus on or what would
the goal will be of the work and they
may even ask like how will you know when
you are have met your goal or a done
with therapy what would you like that
outcome to look like so those are
questions that you you know will be
likely asked and if you want you can try
to prepare a little beforehand by doing
some journaling or just reflecting but
if you aren't sure how to answer those
questions then the therapist can help
you in any case during the first session
you'll probably be reflecting on just
what growth area you want to address
whether that's increased self compassion
or ability to manage your anxiety or
connect more effectively with other
people and also remember that that first
session is an interview both ways to see
if it's a good fit so feel free to ask
your therapist questions that might help
you feel if they are the therapist
that's going to be the best for you so
if you like some ideas you can also go
to our video the three questions you
might ask your therapist on a first
session