we get this question all the time how do
i deal with someone with a giant ego and
the very first thing that we're thinking
when we hear that is it's not just the
other person with a giant ego because if
jacqueline are working together and he
has a giant ego
if i can put my ego in check we can work
together we can have a great
relationship
the only
time that that becomes an issue is when
i have a giant ego and i'm clashing with
his ego and so now we have a clash of
egos so all it takes for is one person
to put their ego in check and you can't
control the other person you can only
control you so whether you're talking
about your boss your peer somebody on
your team with a giant ego
stop worrying about their ego put your
own ego in check subordinate your ego
and that's gonna allow you to be able to
build a better relationship and work
with someone even if they have a giant
ego
and what gets funny about this is it's
actually a little ego detector test so
when leif comes to me and he says he's
working with dave and he says dave's got
a giant ego what what do i do about this
and i say well what you do is you
subordinate your ego you subordinate
your ego you ask him how he wants to do
things and you follow his lead
and then what does life do he says i'm
not gonna do that why should i have to
do that and there you go there's your
answer that's when the the ego becomes
revealed because if you truly don't have
any ego if
if late can keep his ego in check he
goes hey got it jocko that makes sense
i'll subordinate my ego i'll do it
dave's that we'll go with dave's plan
that makes sense that'll that'll smooth
things over and we can figure things out
later that's what someone that has their
ego under control will say so you give
them that little ego detector test and
it should be something that allows me to
show the mirror to life when i say hey
just subordinate your ego and and go
with dave's plan and he says why should
i have to go with his plan he's got a
big ego i shouldn't have to fall in line
under him and i just hold up that nice
little mirror and say you see what that
looks like you see what it looks like
that's what that's your ego so put your
ego in check subordinate it you just
failed the ego detector test lathe
get it in check and that's how you're
going to overcome dealing with someone
that's got a big ego