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Watch This If You're Struggling With Your Self-Worth
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- [Lily] Hey, Psych2Goers,
and welcome to another video.
Thank you all so much
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enabling us to make yet another exploration
into everyday psychology.
So let's begin.
Loving yourself may sound simple,
but we all know how hard it is.
Sometimes it can be a roller coaster ride
between being happy with yourself
and wishing you could change.
There are so many things that affect your image of yourself
and some of them may not be good.
Things such as the media set false expectations and ideals.
It can be a long journey to accepting this,
but it's worth it.
We made this video to remind you
that you should never give up on loving yourself
because you deserve it, and you're worth it.
So here are 12 things that do not determine your self-worth.
Number one, your achievements.
Can you relate to loving yourself so much
when something goes well,
but the second something goes wrong,
your self-worth immediately takes the plunge?
Whether it's your grades, your job, or a sport,
it's easy to base yourself worth on what you accomplish,
but how much you're worth
does not depend on your achievements,
especially when it comes to competitions,
you can't control your competitors
so you don't need to blame yourself
when things don't go your way.
You are more than just a bullet point list
of all of your accomplishments.
You're a complex person with a personality, hobbies,
and so much more than your achievements.
And it all makes you worth it.
Number two, your income and job.
Are you second guessing your career?
Do you often think of switching your job?
While your job plays a big part in your lifestyle,
it does not determine your worth.
People who have less money aren't lesser than others
like society and the media sometimes portrays.
Your job and income
are sometimes the result of your situation.
There are so many factors that influence them,
like location, the economy, and competition.
So they aren't really a reflection of who you are.
Number three, your childhood.
Do you avoid thinking about your childhood?
Do the memories make you uncomfortable?
Your childhood may shape a lot of things about you,
but it does not determine your worth.
It's a phase well on its way out
and you mustn't let it overwhelm you.
Your rough childhood does not define who you are.
After all, you have no control over who your parents are
and you're not responsible for their choices.
It may take some time to accept this,
but your past does not define you.
Number four, your level of education.
Much like your income,
your level of education is also the result
of so many factors.
One of the biggest factors when it comes to deciding
whether to go to college and where
is how much money your family has.
You can't change how much money your family has
or the location of the schools you wanna go to.
Therefore, you don't need to feel bad
if you don't have a higher level of education,
it doesn't mean you're less intelligent
or worth less than those who do.
Number five, how other people view and treat you.
Do you constantly stress about how others see you?
Are you constantly trying to live up to their standards?
Other people have no way of knowing who you truly are.
While family and friends may have a good idea of it,
only you fully know yourself.
Knowing this, your self worth isn't based
upon others limited and sometimes biased opinions of you.
You cannot control what other people think,
nor how they act.
Similarly, don't base your value
upon something completely up to others.
Trying to please others will ultimately lead you
to being miserable
so try not to stress yourself out
with other people's opinions, even if it is difficult.
Number six, other people's achievements.
Do you compare your achievements to other people's?
It's okay, because everyone does that occasionally.
And it's so easy to look at what you've done
and compare it to someone else's achievements,
especially when the internet gives you access
to everyone's amazing lives.
It may be hard to internalize,
but what other people do, doesn't define you.
You can't control others
so the only thing you can do is try your best.
Regardless of the result, trying your best is enough.
After all, everyone is different
with varying skill sets and experiences
so it's no use comparing two completely unique people.
Number seven, your appearance.
Are you unhappy with some physical feature of yours?
Is there anything you wish you could change
about your appearance?
Chances are the answer is yes.
Almost everyone wants what someone else has,
which is the sad truth
especially living in today's society,
it can be so easy to compare yourself to other people
and all the gorgeous models on TV.
But try to remember that what you look like
doesn't determine how much you're worth.
You've probably heard it before,
and we know how hard it is to accept and internalize,
but it's true.
You don't need to feel bad because you might not look
the way that people on the TV do
because everyone is beautiful in their own unique way.
Number eight, your relationship status.
Are you still looking for the one?
But it seems like everyone you know is getting hitched?
Nowadays, there's so much pressure
to have a significant other
and a picture perfect relationship.
It can feel as if you constantly need to be pursuing someone
out of fear of being a desperate, lonely, single.
However, there's nothing wrong with being single,
it doesn't make you less of a person
because it means you're taking more time
to focus on yourself and what you wanna do.
You will only go for it when it feels right.
While a relationship may be nice,
it's not something you need to have to be valued.
Nine, the number of friends you have.
Do you value quantity over quality when it comes to friends?
Or is it difficult for you to keep up
with your circle of friends?
Having more friends
doesn't matter what kind of person you are.
If you only have a few
it doesn't mean you're not sociable or kind,
but it means you have a specific taste in people,
which isn't a bad thing.
You're invested in finding friends
who understand and care you.
On the other hand,
having more friends doesn't mean you're shallow
and only interested in popularity,
it means that you're friendly and open to new people.
The number of friends you have
doesn't say anything about yourself worth,
rather, it's the quality of your friends
that really matters.
10, your social media status.
Are you an avid scroller?
Do you post on social media habitually or occasionally?
With the amount of emphasis on social media,
the world seems to revolve around how many likes you get.
There is so much pressure to have
a picture perfect aesthetically pleasing life.
However, your worth is not measured
by how many people like your posts.
Social media is for sharing parts of your life
and forming connections with people.
It's allowed, getting likes may give you satisfaction,
it doesn't determine your self-worth.
Social media should be fun and uplifting,
not a tool to gain validation.
You are valid and worthy
regardless of your social media status.
Number 11, your age.
Both old and young people are often judged due to their age.
People may think all young people are reckless and selfish,
while all older people have their whole lives figured out.
But your age doesn't control your personality,
hobbies, likes, dislikes and so much more.
It's not a reflection of who you are
so it doesn't determine your worth.
After all,
♪ Age aint nothing but a number ♪
Number 12, your decision to have children.
There's a lot of societal pressure to have children
in order to contribute to society.
But having children is completely your own decision.
Not having children doesn't make you less worthy
than others who do
because it's a major decision that affects you most of all,
so it should be up to you.
Remember your decision is valid and valued either way.
In the end, you're the only one
who determines your self-worth.
Cliche, but it's true.
Not anyone or anything else,
whether it be money, family, or friends.
It may be hard, but just try to remember
that you are more than any single aspect.
We hope we were able to give you insight
into some of the things
that you shouldn't base your worth on.
Do you use any of these things to measure your self-worth?
If so, that's okay, we've all been there before
and we're here for you.
Leave a comment down below
and sharing your experiences and thoughts you have as well.
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