How to compliment a guy on his work
The Compliment He's Dying To Hear (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)
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today's lesson is based on something we
all kind of know inherently but I want
to make it more specific the old-school
role in human dynamics is people like
people who like them right if you show
that you like someone they're more
likely to like you maybe there is an
obvious to a lot of people Jameson I
think a lot of people don't act like
that's obvious it it's a fundamental
truth is that when we show that there's
something we like in someone else
they're more likely to like us the
reason I want to make this more specific
is I feel like it's something we don't
do nearly enough with each other is just
just be obvious be blatant about what we
like about someone else we often go away
thinking things and we then tell a third
person we go away from an interaction
and we go to a third person and we say I
really like so-and-so because but to do
that is to miss the benefit in a way of
having that thought because if you were
actually to give it to the person you
thought it it but thought that about
they're far more likely to like you
they're far more likely to be thinking
about you I even remember being 11 years
old at a school disco and I was on the
dance floor with a bunch of people
dancing and I did this funny spin just
to be silly and there was a guy there
who looked at me and he goes you're fun
you I like you you're fun immediately it
created this warm feeling because I was
like he thinks I'm fun you know I've
never forgotten it that was I was 11
years old I've never forgotten in my
whole life how many people in your life
do you not give those compliments to
when they come into your head because
that by the way that's the time to do it
is the moment you feel something or the
moment you you think about it
just tell him just be honest about it I
had a couple of friends come to visit me
in Los Angeles maybe two three weeks ago
there was a friend that I have in LA who
met two of my friends from back home and
she was sitting with my friends from
back home and one of my guys from back
home made it this funny dry very dry and
English comment and she looked at him
and she went you're funny
she goes you're wow you're funny and she
said it was like in her head immediately
she didn't hold back she just said it we
never saw her again the whole trip but
he wouldn't stop talking about
her and referencing her because she'd
seen something in him and that's
something we don't do enough we don't
recognize the great qualities in each
other by the way if you want to take
this to a more advanced level don't just
recognize the same obvious quality that
everybody else does look for that thing
that they do well that perhaps isn't
complimented all that often people are
so used to getting complimented on the
10% of themselves that everybody sees
you know that that person who's pretty
is used to being called pretty a lot
that person who is always funny is used
to being called funny but we're used to
90% of our personalities not being
recognized not being credited well if
you could be the one person who seeks
out that 90% that part that other people
don't see and compliments people on it
you're going to glow to everybody around
you they will think about you
differently as the person who either
gets them or sees something in other
people don't or sees their potential but
you'll hold a very special place in
their mind and in their heart that's it
for today I'll see you soon follow me on
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slash coach Matthew Hussey and that's it
I'll see in the next video
you
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